I asked God if it was okay to be melodramatic
and she said yes
I asked her if it was okay to be short
and she said it sure is
I asked her if I could wear nail polish
or not wear nail polish
and she said honey
she calls me that sometimes
she said you can do just exactly
what you want to
Thanks God I said
And is it even okay if I don't paragraph
my letters
Sweetcakes God said
who knows where she picked that up
what I'm telling you is
Yes Yes Yes
-Kaylin Haught
Facilitating self-awareness is a big part of what I do
which is basically a conversation where I ask really brilliant questions and point out connections that are hard to notice when you're that close to the issue. And on it's own the insights are empowering. But 'facilitation' is not a very sexy description and it's not the best part.
the Best part
The magic part - the transcendent part - is a mysterious moment that comes whenever it comes. It's my favourite moment. It exhilarates and tantalizes and takes us both out of the ordinary and whispers us into a frenzy of permissions.
It's the part where I say something that the locked away, unexplored, unaccepted, undiscovered or confused part of you hears what it most needs to hear.
It's the part where, when your needs and the needs of someone close to you are in conflict, I find the words that show you how to stand in your own truth while being able to more deeply hear the truth of the one you love and you are suddenly outside of conflict and inside communion.
It's the part where your eyes shift their focus from all the reasons you can't have what you want, away from all the darkness and muddledness of something you can't describe but know is in your way, and you suddenly see things from a perspective that lets you make choices, or gives you space enough to rest in, or just a fuller understanding and a stronger instinct for who you are and the role you play in your own piece of life.
It's a magic moment because it comes of it's own - I can invoke it, invite it, make the right sort of space for it and from a long life of following that sense of seeking permission and following desire I have powerful instincts for it that I can lend to you - but I don't command it. It comes as a gift - and while it's happening for you, it is simultaneously happening for me - and that is the reason I do this work beyond any other reason.
How this works
Simple. Email me: erin@erinsings.com and tell me you'd like to schedule some time with me. Then I'll call you (or skype you) and we'll explore what you desire or where you are troubled and all that comes up around that. It'll take about an hour or so (sometimes two - i'm not militant about time). Have something specific about your life or inner self that you'd like to work with.
When our session is over you pay me what you choose. Need a suggestion? Start at $40 and work your way up in $20 increments until you feel good about it.
I accept paypal: erin@erinsings.com
and checks - I'll give you my address when you email.
Why is something so good, so cheap?
Well, first of all, if you think it's cheap you're probably not picking the right amount for yourself. It should feel valuable. Maybe someday I'll charge the $500 and up coaching fees of some of my peers and dazzle you with my audacious pricing - but today, I don't feel like it, so I don't. And I'll tell you why I don't feel like it:
I am blessed with the luxury of not having to do this work for money because I already have what I need to cover my living expenses. This leaves me free to structure my counseling services in whatever way I feel best suits the kind of people I most want to work with and the way that transformation will find the most seductive.
I'm not trying to be generous, either.
Being able to afford a high price doesn't automatically mean you are willing to be accountable and brave - sometimes it means you are willing to pay someone else to do it for you and i'm not interested in that. If we get into our session and It's apparent that you're here so I can do the work for you or so you can have a pleasantly reassuring conversation letting you feel that things are taken care of without having to really face anything, I will suggest we end the session. Because it doesn't honor either of us to dwell there.
What I really want out of this work is to reach out to the people far and wide who will be the most transformationally impacted by it. I am wildly, insatiably passionate about self awareness and living intimately with your desires and expressing yourself more freely. I'm so turned on byt this work that I can never tell if I do it or if it does me. I literally shiver with excitement and purpose every opportunity I get to create a shared space and safe soil for an unleashing soul. What I care about is the way we spend our time, not how much you spend in order to have some of my time.
So I charge because it sets a structure that helps me manage my time and energies more effectively and becausee you need to know how much value it has for you. Money represents our intentions, our power, our energies, our insecurities and it creates clear boundaries for us to cultivate an authentic intimacy in that makes our explorations empowering and safe. Money creates boundaries we all understand and money is one of the ways we collectively define respect - by whether or not we have paid for something and by how much we paid. My time and skills are definitely valuable, I just acknowledge that you know much better than I do what you can afford and at what price point you start to think of something as really meaningful and important in order to justify the expense.
I am trusting you to choose your own price because the kind of people I want to work with will find that intriguing and stimulating. It gives you that all-over nervous/excited feeling that lets you know you're at the edge of a comfort zone you'd like to expand.
Instead of me arbitrarily picking a number I'm raising my eye brows and *daring* you to declare how valuable it is to you. Consider it the first task in your unleashing - declaring for yourself what it is worth to you to live more boldly, openly, and deeply. And I will support that.
There is no blessing in hurrying and testing the water a couple times before deciding to plunge in is encouraged. Feeling safe and supported is as important as feeling challenged and excited. Get in touch with me if you're not sure.
Ask me anything. Tell me anything. And then see if how I respond is meaningful, useful or stimulating to you.
I am trained to listen deeply to people's biggest secrets and walk softly in the delicate places - If you're curious about where I got trained you'll find it here.
